About Me

Hi, I’m Jodi, a 53-year-old, woman, daughter, sister, mom, friend, co-worker, ex-wife, and someone who’s lived through enough plot twists to fill a Netflix series. I still don't feel like I know who I am.  Are those titles I listed me?  Or are those just who I am to others but not truly who I am to myself?  Does that make sense to anyone else?  

Here’s the short version:

• My 25 marriage (27 together) ended after I discovered my husband had been cheating for years. I found out the modern way through social media and a little (okay, maybe a lot) of online snooping.

• My mom died of cancer way too soon in life, and had me realize just how much of me was based on her, and I felt lost for a long time.

• My sister was killed in a tragic accident at home. About two hours after I had said goodbye to her at work.

• And somewhere in the middle of all of this, I found myself staring at my life, wondering, Is this really all there is?

The long version? Well, that’s what this blog is for.

I called it Just Eat the Crust because when I was young, my mom would cut the crust off for me on my toast, but as I grew and became older some how I learned that I just had to eat the crust whether I like it or not.  Why?  I guess I was told that Adults shouldn't cut the crust off, I couldn't bother people with a preference of mine, it was easier for me to eat it than to speak up for myself.?   I’ve spent too many years holding back, playing nice, and waiting for the perfect moment where I felt I could do things that please me, I could say no to tasks I didn't want to do, I could expect those who say they love me to actually love ME - all of ME, for who I am.   Just as soon as I figured out who I was for myself.  I needed to learn that it was ok to speak up and express my and the people around me should be okay with that. That moment doesn’t always come to me. So, now? I’m taking the bite, I'm eating the crust or actually, I'm not going to eat the crust and speak my truth, and living fully even when it’s messy.

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If you are trying to figure out what comes next or if you’re just tired of pretending everything’s fine when it’s not pull up a chair. You’re in the right place.  Because sometimes in life … you just don't want to eat the damn crust.